Negative behavior personalities that's not necessary - PART 1
Have you not got to the point of understanding your self under a negative behavior world. Learn from mine if you can relate.
What are those red flags that I found in me? And my circles find bad about me. " Those transparent negative behaviors."
If there's goodness within me, it is often overshadowed by negative behaviors. Some bad habits develop as we grow, while others might stem from our family's past or our unique identities crafted by God. As we evolve, this negative behavior can sometimes feel like a heavy burden, leading us to question our relationships and the bonds we hold dear.
The more we develop these, the more it can take us to grave saying we belong there. Because it can end our relationships and bonds that lasted long. Some behaviors seem to be transparent, and some do not. But as humans, we have the tendency to track those ideal behaviors by getting along with our circles for a long period of time.
Judging someone based on their negative behavior—the traits that don’t reflect their true character—can cloud our understanding. You might not like them for those negative behaviors; they’ve traveled a long way with you. Maybe for the good behaviors they carry.
Most of it is neither good to carry nor to leave alone. Because the sun always shines only after leaving behind the darkness.
Read through it, and you will definitely gain something out of my experience that I’ve spilled out here without regrets. And you can avoid all those you think that affects.
Evaluate yourself; build something you think you can show off to this world. The more you hide, the more you suffer in silence. Better let things go. If you’re at your early age, then this is definitely for you. Meant for adults too to take them a step ahead.
Let me share some of my transparent negative behaviors—what I recognize as red flags from others' perspectives—alongside some good qualities that highlight my struggles with negative behavior.
Some good qualities that highlight negative behavior transparency of mine I share with you here.
Impatience, a negative behavior of mine can often lead us to overlook our responsibilities
Have you ever felt if your impatient negative behavior affects your daily routine? You forget things; misconceptions and misunderstandings all come under the consequences of impatience and negative behavior. I’ve experienced a ton of impatience and negative behavior affecting my natural behavior.
Some of your presence with efficient patience behavior is necessary to become successful. Rushing shouldn’t mind our way in between. It could destroy those happenings. Some need immediate action; I don’t say you better be an athlete recklessly handling things. Instead, be patient enough to know if method A works well; else, be patient enough to thrive in making method B more successful. Impatience often leads to negative behavior like anger issues, short tempers, and missed opportunities. Be careful, as it can lead to greater losses all around. I get stuck falling to this prey.
I dive right in knowing the consequences of doing this without taking my own time would be a direct block. Instead, at least from today, I’m preparing my personality mold in a better way to adjust the required shape. Prepare yourself to give yourself enough time to adjust to different chapters of your life. You better be brave enough and cautious enough to handle the consequences that life throws during unplanned situations.
For instance, consider how impatience manifests when you
You just want to run out, closing your laptop right after working hours, knowing the job is not done the right way.
Won’t stop your vehicle when it’s a red signal, knowing you will be fined.
When you fill your check in seconds, knowing it will bounce back.
When you randomly book your flight ticket with a random seller without going through it in detail (instead, book early).
When you don’t organize your stuff patiently, leading to searching it forever.
Anger, a negative behavior of mine often leads to crucial steps ahead
Having anger issues no longer gives us a better solution. Instead builds problems in many ways. It only broke bonds that lasted long.
I had it for smaller reasons. I get that only with my closed circles. With words and actions. And I can say that with dedicated hours in prayer, you could overcome this. While prayer can be a source of strength, I found myself too busy to invest the necessary time. Negative behavior stemming from anger affect not just ourselves but also those around us, leading to heartbreaks and mental strain.
I got this negative behavior from my younger age. And I've heard a myth that’s circulated around saying, "You eat more salt, you're prone to anger." I checked up on me with this. And this was real, as I believed. I never ignored salt after I knew, instead I got hold of it.
This is an example of how your anger issue flows through your blood.
And today I regret some situations or scenarios that might have been avoided instead of raising my voice through anger.
Anger for a good reason and a bad reason exist. We have to speak out for good reason without anger transparency. Definitely, if it is for a bad reason, it will end up bad. Follow the life rule; control your anger by keeping your mouth shut. Words coming out through anger might be the poisonous ones. I've been through it all, and I regret some, and I'm proud of myself if that was meant for a good reason.
My anger is triggered if someone knocks at me vigorously for no reason. And I take that chance to give it back. But having self-control during this phase will judge the way you tackle and live forward.
Selfishness, a negative behavior of mine shows that you're being self-centered
I’ve had this again as a childhood behavior until now. I just want to keep it for myself first. Have everything for me. When I shop. I forget about my circle. Just shop for myself unless I decide early that I must consider all others too. Lol.
Having this behavior might start developing a jealousy factor in oneself. And you cannot resist if your opportunity is passed onto someone else. Leading to self-confidence, anger issues, misunderstandings, and as such. I’ve had all the good qualities in me, as mentioned in one of my blog:
But these are some attacks that tend to attack myself.
As I developed this negative behavior in me. I never had a wish to depend on someone else. As this makes ourselves independent and give everything to ourselves without expectations from others. Unless you have your circle to show you they are there for you. This develops to avoid new characters in life and creates disbelief in oneself.
You will exaggerate more within yourself getting attached to negative behavior. Start loving yourself. Respect yourself, and you expect the same from others. Start believing in yourself. Building yourself through resilience means saying no to negative behavior. And that’s good. All this is okay unless you don’t find difficulty in yourself in helping yourself. If you’re okay with yourself, slowly get adjusted to it. I believe in what the Bible says. Help each other and be there for each other.
If you never want to develop selfishness more, then
Have a note to help the needy within your budget every month. Develop a nature of helping more. Breaking free from negative behavior.
Start socializing outside of your circle to combat negative behavior.
Shift your mindset from “me” to “we” to avoid negative behavior.
Develop sympathy and empathy, replacing negative behavior with positive actions.
Show kindness by replacing negative behavior with positive actions.
Overthinking, a negative behavior of mine can destroy everything
Hence I allowed many bad situations and bad people to ruin my life. I had to deal with overthinking. I never got this in my early age, after my 25 affecting my all over being because of this. In the beginning, it just hit the slow start of remembering gone old days and was again prone and made me convinced to share with my circle. Later, I had to share my seat on the spot without being convinced to say. This worsened day by day. And I had to simply remember all my life happenings. On the other hand, during this period, I was developed to overthink each situation on what might happen in the future if this prolongs. If I get to do this, I have to deal with the varied options passing in different directions. This occurred for each of the scenarios that I faced during this bad phase.
I learned that the more space you give anyone in your life, the more they occupy to rule your life.
Some precautionary methods to avoid these from my learnings:
First and foremost, never prioritize those people or situations you think are useless. The more space you give them, the more they fill your life with negative behavior.
Concentrate on your personal growth before reaching out to your circle to combat negative behavior.
Start developing yourself in many ways (personal development) at an early age, so don’t get stuck like me during your adult age, which can lead to negative behavior.
Stick with your circle, so you don’t lose them. If they are meant to leave. Leave them. Freeing yourself from negative behavior
Socialize and be part of unknown groups and gatherings to reduce negative behavior.
Be choosy and know with whom you share all your secrets to avoid negative behavior.
Avoid negative situations and scenarios if you think that might destroy your well-being, steering clear of negative behavior.
By recognizing these negative behavior in my life, I’ve taken steps toward improvement. I hope sharing these insights encourages you to reflect on your own behaviors and grow.
PART 2 to be contd…
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